Well here we are, finally…!

Welcome to my little group.

Of ladies over 50, who are still vigorously living life, but maybe going through a transition of some sort and wondering “what now?” Are you having trouble finding your purpose?

By this time in our lives, almost all of us are either empty nesters, or have lost a loved one, or have retired, or have downsized homes. We also may have a second career, a second home, or have started traveling. We may be frustrated that clothes no longer fit our bodies (why is everything so long?) or that makeup isn’t doing what it’s supposed to (it takes twice as long to look half as good :/ ) And many of us have gone gray or white and are loving that freedom!

what now?

Well that’s what this blog is about!

State of Gray is aimed at women of a certain age, who are going through transitions. Maybe you feel stuck between two lives or two stages. You might feel alone, no longer heard, understood or appreciated. It can be isolating. Maybe things aren’t working out as you had planned or hoped, and you’re working with Plan B. I hope to be relatable to you and your everyday life.

This is not a grief blog, but we will discuss that, because by this point in our lives, most of us have suffered some kind of loss. In 2011 and 2012 I suffered devastating losses. After 3 or 4 years of really not wanting to be here, I read a particularly great book, and realized I can’t ever fix this, but I wanted to be heard. Hmmm, maybe I was meant to write. I’ll tell my story and we’ll see how it relates to yours, as I think it’s a dialogue worth having.

This blog will hopefully resonate with you and encourage and educate you. It’s about reinvention, reemergence, reevaluation, repurposing, relevance, refining and sometimes, reentry. (the “re” words.) We are at the stage of the game where we ask ourselves, “what now?” It’s time to do all the things you never thought you would do, or always wanted to do. We want to make the most of our lives and live in what is happening now.

On a lighter note, I want to find and share items, ideas and information for women over 50, so that we can live our best lives. I will touch on everything from fashion to travel, from creativity to loss. I hope to translate trends and ideas into what works for us. What is our version of style? This isn’t a fashion blog, but it is about what’s great for us. We all want to remain relevant, no matter our age. I believe that as we age, we become more and more who we were always meant to be. We return to our true selves. We care less about what the big world thinks about us.

Originally, this blog was to be about things that I’m interested in - like style, flowers, beauty, humor, travel, decorating, shopping (once a buyer, always a buyer), books, etc etc…. But now it will be more. It has to be. Because I am more. And you’re more too. Let’s have a discussion of what it’s like to age well.

I encourage you to subscribe to the blog. It’s so much easier - that way, it is delivered directly to your inbox, and you can click through to read it, save it for later, or delete it if you’re not interested. You won’t have to manually check the site to see if there’s a new post. Although you can visit me anytime you want to see what’s here! I’m gonna start out with three posts a week, and we’ll see where that takes us.

it’s the state of gray.

It’s the state of me, the state of us. It’s a most unexpected shade of gray. It’s bright and shiny, platinum and glistening. C’mon, let’s go…